On Board

It was a cloudy rainy evening, on a weekend, we stepped out for dinner, when we reached the main road, our car came to a halt seeing a red signal, R and N were having a causal talk and I was listening to my favourite number watching sky, suddenly a car just passed by, and my eyes couldn't resist to see the sticker which was sticked on back side of the car. As the trafficator turned green, we started driving, and that car was in front of ours, as I observed the car was going slowly without any hurry and I could see there were 3-4 aged adults in that car. And the car was chauffeured by a young boy in his mid 20's who was happily talking to them. Since the road was not that crowded by traffic, our car just shoots ahead by their car. And I was keen to know who were stationed inside the car upon seeing the sticker behind there rare seat. There were 3 aged people smiling and talking with jubilant smile who were enjoying the ride. Probably that young boy might be their grandson or some relative. I have seen stickers like - "Baby on Board “or " Prince or Princess on board" But this was so different, it was a different sticker - " Adults on board". And till now I have never come across such stickers. And it just hit me that hardest part of growing up is realizing your parents are growing old, which we never wanted to believe, but this is the harsh reality. I was very happy to see, that good people still exist, who are taking care of their old ones so affectionately. Hardly we get to see this type of relation these days. 

In the mid of my thoughts, I got a nudge from R, Mumma get down we reached restaurant. Since it was Guru Purnima, we decided to have a Satvik dinner. This restaurant serves the most delicious Satvik vegetarian food on their menu - say from North Indian to Italian to Chinese, Sizzlers and starters which are cooked in a Satvik way, without using garlic and onion. Entire restaurant gives you a holistic atmosphere, where one can see the verses from Bhagavad Gita on walls beautifully written with amazing paintings. And yes, we being a pure vegetarian, we relish their yummy food. After having a hearty meal, we returned back home. But this thought is not leaving me since a day that, how much time I am able to spend with my parents. Caring for aged old seniors and parents are the significant responsibility that requires love, patience and compassion. How I see at times my mom suddenly tells me to increase the volume of television while watching her favourite TV show, or my dad ask me same things repeatedly, that immediately hits me that yes, it is a natural thing. It is a process which bring us back from where we started. A 3 to 4-year baby repeatedly asking for things which he/she don’t understand, or when a one-year-old baby who just started walking who falls again and again. The same happens with our aged parents. They find difficulty while walking, they need a balance or a supporting hand. It is a privilege to repay their love and sacrifices. Those who walked before us have given so much and made possible the life we all enjoy.

Now adays there are new service providers who are providing human assistance for aged parents of those, whose children’s stay in different cities or staying abroad. They are trained educated caretaker who assist aged people in giving them emotional and moral support. And to help them in assistance, for instances taking them to hospital, temple or spend some happy quality time. The most obvious similarity between old people and babies or kids is that they need the care and intervention of others. Old age has been viewed as a time when older people returned to child-like behaviour. To some scholars, this return was viewed as completing the cycle of life, as older people become to regress to an earlier state of mind and being and they became dependent on others for care, similar to child. Staying in a city where my parents live is a blessing in disguise. We may never be able to thank our parents enough for all they have done. Our indebtedness to our parents is so immense that it is not possible to repay it fully in any lifetime. The least we can do is to treat them with respect, love and gratitude, so that there may not come a time, where they need to choose an old age home or can be handled by any service providers. 

"A parent's love is whole no matter how many times divided”. To care for those who once cared for us is one of the highest honors. Remain patient and give all your respect to our beloved parents and seniors, as they have earned their dignity through their lifetime.....

 

Majha Pandhari

Wishing all a very happy Ashadhi Ekadashi or Devshayani Ekadashi. This day marks a great significance, for a Hindu devotee, especially for every Maharashtrian’s. I despite being a Devi bhakt from my childhood, after my son was born, I found a great connect with the lord Narayan. My mom and I used to narrate lot of childhood stories of Krishna to R. And I started celebrating Krishna Janmashtami after R was born. When R was 4-year-old, he used to recite many verses of Bhagavat Gita so lucidly, especially 7th and 12th chapter, since it was taught in his school. And he remembers a single line of it even to this date. He being a spiritual child from the time he was born, doing pooja’s, chanting. Literally a small pandit of our house. Year passed by and my connection with lord Narayana became more and more strong. And today is the day of the lord going to rest for next 4 months. Hence it is called Devshayani Ekadashi. 

Ashadhi Ekadashi or Devshayani Ekadashi falls on the eleventh day of the Hindu month of Ashadha, so Devshayani Ekadashi is also called as Ashadhi Ekadashi. It signifies a time of deep spiritual connection, and it is one of the most important religious festivals that is celebrated in Maharashtra. This festival is celebrated on a large scale especially in Pandharpur, where a huge number of devotees gather to celebrate the festival. It is a religious procession festival which is held every year during the Ashada Shukla paksha. Generally, Ekadashi is considered to be coming every month of the year, but the eleventh day of Ashadh is said to be auspicious Ekadashi. As per the legends on this day, lord Vishnu enters in to deep rest of concentration or yoga nidra, and he again wake up after 4 months on the day of Prabodhini Ekadashi which falls in the month of Kartik. On this day the devotees keep fast whole day and pray to the lord of universe. In Pandharpur people go walking in huge processions singing chanting hymns carrying palanquins which have the image of great saint Dnyaneshwar and saint Tukaram to pray their tribute to their lord Vitthal. Many musical instruments like dholkis and chiplis are played by the devotees during this holy yatra. 

This day is considered very pious and people join the yatra not only from Maharashtra but also from other cities as well. It is said this procession starts in Allandi and ends on Guru Purnima at Pandharpur. Men are dressed in ethnic wears like white dhoti and kurta and sing devotional songs which is called " Abhang" in Marathi. I remember my mom used to narrate these stories to us in our childhood.  My maternal grandma's uncle was a 'Warkari'. These warkari's are the one who belong to a sampradaya within spiritual tradition of Hinduism, geographically associated with the state of Maharashtra. Warkari’s worship Vitthal. (known as Vithoba). the presiding deity of Pandharpur, regarded as a form of Vishnu. In olden days the famous saints and gurus of the bhakti movement associated with the warkari’s include - Dnyaneshwar, Namdev, Chokhamela, Eknath and Tukaram all of whom are accorded the title of Sant. These warkari’s were the historically the followers of Krishna. 

This tradition has been part of Hindu culture in Maharashtra since 13th century CE. The warkari movement includes the worship of Vithoba and a duty-based approach towards life emphasising moral behaviour and strict avoidance of alcohol and tobacco, and adapt the Satvik diet. Owing to these stories of our puranas, this day is celebrated in Maharashtra with lot of grandeur and devotees join from all parts of the country to pay homage to the lord. 

As I write this today, I am still at loss of words for what Vitthal means to me. How he entered my life and directing me towards my path."Majha Pandhari" in Marathi ( My Vitthal) one of my favourite shlok of lord Vishnu - 

" कृष्णाया वासुदेवाय हरये परमात्मने। प्रणतः क्लेशनाशाय गोविंदाया नमो नमः।।

 

An Age Old Practice

One day R my 10-year-old son, asked me a question, mumma why men do 'Ashtanga Pranam' or 'Sashtanga Pranam. And women do 'Dandavat'. And I was very happy to hear this question from him. For his keen observation on such minute things. I myself got the answer when I was in my 5th month of pregnancy with R, was really amazed to hear the reason behind it. I had little knowledge about it. But as kids are keen enthusiastic R need a proper full proof answer.

Hinduism is known as the oldest religion to have introduced and practiced 'Namaskar' (or Pranama) a respectful salutation before deities or the elders. In Indian culture the significance of these forms of pranama lies in demonstrating humility, devotion and respect to the divine or revered personalities. It is essential to recite prayers or mantras while offering salutations, as it enhances the spiritual connection and reinforces one's reverence. Pranama is derived from Sanskrit word 'Pra' as prefix meaning "forward, in front or before", and 'Nama' means "bending or stretching". So, in combined terms, it means 'reverentially bowing' before others, as a gesture of respect. 

Since time known, Hinduism has been practicing the 6 forms of Pranam -

Ashtanga - 8 body parts touching the ground. Knees,belly,chest,hands,elbows,chin,nose and temple.

Sashtanga - 6 body parts touching the ground. Toes,knee,hands,chin,nose and temple.

Panchanga - 5 body parts touching the ground. Knees,chest,chin,temple and forehead.

Dandavat - 2 body parts touching the ground. Knees and forehead.

Namaskar - Revering with folded hands touching the forehead.

Abhinandana - Greeting others with just head bow and folded hands, touching their chest. It is the old Hindu mythological greeting.

With changing times, people have changed their gesture of reverence, where people back in ancient times performed Ashtanga and Sashtanga for their deities, gurus, parents and elderly, now they resort to a comforting Namaskar. 

Also, the most interesting part when R asked me why women are forbidden in doing Ashtanga or Shastanga pranam, nor he has ever seen a woman doing this kind of pranams, and does only Dandvat. I was very delighted for his observation in day-to-day life. As it is mentioned in Upanishads, that women were forbidden from doing Ashtanaga or Sashtanga which required them not to touch the ground in reverence with their chest or womb, because a women's womb and chest were considered very sensitive and slightest muscle pull could disturb their maternity. Gradually, as they approach motherhood, they are exempted from performing Sashtanga too and are allowed to follow Dandavat and Namaskar.

We see that greeting elders and deities is practised in all religions. Especially in Hinduism. Some other communities practise it too. It is said that, when a person bows down and touches the feet of their elders, their ego gets suppressed as this gesture indicates respecting the age, experience, achievements and wisdom of the person whose feet are being touched. As read in Mahabharata, Yudhistra stated that touching the feet of the elders gives strength and feeling of greatness. Even Rishis have observed four beneficial factors of touching the feet, i.e. it gives strength, intellect, knowledge and fame. 

But in present times, it seems each one of us has found an escape in Abhinandana, sometimes not even this. Barely bowing head in acknowledgment has become quite common these days. I feel education begins the moment we see children as innately wise and capable beings. While we try to teach our children all about life, our children teach us what life is all about, and its learning, each and every minute. Because wisdom is not a product of schooling but of the lifelong attempt to acquire it. 

I feel the important thing is not to stop questioning, curiosity has its own reason for existing. Because curiosity gives space for your kids mind to explore. It is not what you do for your children, but what you taught them to do for themselves, that will make them a successful human being. With this, I was happy to answer my little boy, and he was convinced with the answer he got from his Mumma.

Being a mother is not about what you gave up to have a child, but what you have gained from having one. For me it is a lifelong learning, I am embracing and in love with it....

 

 

 

Happy Relaxing

Recently I came across a beautiful short video, which just left me with questions in my mind. And later which made me sit back and think about the women in my life. My grandmother, my mom, my female friends, and myself too, or say the entire womanhood. Why is that not easy for women to just sit and relax? Growing up, I never knew a relaxed woman, not even in movies. I have always seen my grandmother in the kitchen doing household chores. And my mom was a working woman for years until my son was born. She is a supernova, always on her toes. Now I am following in the footsteps of my mom. I feel proud of myself for handling multiple tasks. Managing the house, taking care of my 10-year-old son, and following my passion dancing, and writing. But are we relaxed?

For years now I have seen my mom working tirelessly, even now in her late 60s. When she is working there is no room for tiredness or even a frown on her face. I believe aging has a wonderful beauty, and we should accept it gracefully. My mom is the heartbeat of the house, and without her, there is no heartthrob. But does this heartthrob get a relaxed day? Women since ages have been working tirelessly. Usually, women are shown with ten hands multitasking. I feel we should learn now where to stop, sit back and relax. At times women give themselves unconditional permission to relax. Practicing self-love is necessary not only for us but for the people who stay with us too. You don't need to be everything for everyone always. Be there with yourself, by yourself, and for yourself. Take time to do what makes your soul happy.

A mother's hands are always full when crusts need cutting, diapers need changing, crumbs need sweeping and cups need reaching. Errands need running, tears need drying, and hearts need mending. Her hands do it all. But most full of all is her heart. It is hard to love yourself if you never spend time with yourself. How you love yourself, is how you teach others to love you. Like art, women come in different colors, sizes, and forms. And like works of art, every woman is unique, and beautiful and should be appreciated. Love yourself enough to take the actions required for your happiness. Love yourself enough to cut yourself loose from the ties of the drama-filled past and people. Be faithful to that which exists within yourself. Make happiness a priority and be gentle with yourself in the process.

We have seen successful women? Yes. Productive women? Plenty. Afraid and apologetic women? heaps of them. But relaxed women? without apology? I am not sure I have ever met one. We women work so tirelessly at work and home all day, a reminder of self-care and self-love. Take a break, do nothing. Meet family and friends. Dance like no one's watching. There is no right age or time to enjoy simple joys like:- Feeling the rain, watching the sky, enjoying the wind. The best escape to the daily grind is 'Niksen". It is a Dutch lifestyle concept. Niksen means, "doing nothing". It involves indulging in simple activities, strolling in nature, and listening to music. This Dutch art of doing nothing isn't about laziness; it's about being mindful of the present moment and taking time to rest and recharge yourself.  Pamper yourself. Enjoy your leisure time without any guilt. Research has shown that slowing down not only reduces stress and anxiety but also enhances creativity and strengthens the immune system. To incorporate Niksen into your life, take away from devices and find a space where you can sit, think, or meander aimlessly. Embrace everyday moments, whether it's waiting in line or being stuck in traffic. Stop being perfect women all the time. There is a kind of beauty in imperfection too.    

Life isn't meant to be lived perfectly... But to be lived merely and create memories. Prioritizing your deepest creative work as a woman is a radical act of self-love. When you are calm, happy, and composed, your actions can create a legacy that inspires others to dream more, learn more, and do more. When you deeply love yourself it gives you courage and strength. Make so many shades of yourself that you can choose yourself every day. If you are tired, learn to rest but not to quit. "Life is tough my darling, but so you are". Fall in love with yourself, Mind-Body-Spirit. So don't forget to celebrate yourself. ''You have enough. You do enough. You are enough". Just Relax. "Happy relaxing".

विजय गीत

सत्य, धर्म, मद और प्यार,

कहे वाल्मीकि, रामायण सार।

रघुवीर रीत सदा चली आए, 

प्राण जाए पर वचन न जाए।

वचन रगुपति के, रचाए रावण संहार,

धर्म विजयी, धुत लंकापति की हार।

धनुष टूटा, ब्रह्मांड रूठा

भरम भाले का, कर झूठा।

जानकीवल्लभ संग सवार

सीता गए अयोध्या पधार।

दशरथ के वचन , वो कैकेई को कर अदा,

निकले वनवास, जानकी संग लक्ष्मण धनुर्धारी

स्वर्णमृग से ठगे, सीताहरण किए दशानन धार।

संजीवनी ले प्राण बचाए

रुद्रमुर्ति हनुमान आए।

प्रभु मुद्रिका, मैया को चढ़ाए

पूछ भभके, फिर लंका जलाए

सीता भंजन में व्याकुल श्रीराम

दरदर समंदर सेतु बना लंका पार !

दसवें दिन रचाए दशानन संहार

सितसहित, सीतापति घर प्रस्थान।

धन्य हुई अयोध्या, मनाए त्योहार

दशहरा दीवाली, बांटे स्नेह उपहार।

श्री रघुवीर भक्त हितकारी

सुनी लीजै प्रभु अरज हमारी,

निशि दिन ध्यान धरै जो कोई,

ता सम बक्त और नहीं होई।

उठ रही दिल मे उमंग "श्री राम जन्मभूमि" आने की, पर मेरे

बस में कुछ भी नहीं, "प्रभु" आप ही व्यवस्था करो "अयोध्या" बुलाने की।।

    श्री राम राम रामेति, रमे रामे मनोरमे । 

   सहस्रनाम तत्तुल्यं, रामनाम वरानने।।

             "जय श्री राम"                ……...….............................................

New Year - New Dreams

What the new year 

Brings to you , will depend a 

Great deal, on what you bring

To the New year

This year do more of what 

Already working for me

To be the one who 

Is so busy improving yourself

That, you don't have time for 

Regrets, drama and 

Negativity.

Do not work more 

Than you live.

This year make a new resolution

To be yourself,

To make today worthy remembering 

Clear out the clutter. Less shopping 

Work out to stay healthy,

Not to be thinner.

To do random acts of kindness and service

Less couch , more workouts

Less talking, more listening

Less complaints, more smiles

Ignore any opinions that do not 

Enhance life.

To stay away from people who 

Drain your energy

To make time , not excuses 

Identify the essential, eliminate the rest

The less you own, the less owns you

Minimalism is not having less

It's about making room for more of

what matters

Simplicity is the ultimate

Sophistication 

To make myself rich, by making 

My wants few.

Live in the moment

Start each day with gratitude

Laugh more

To create meaningful connections

Meditate

Stick to your goals. Be generous 

Choose happiness 

Thank you 2023 for the learnings, memories, happines and blessings 

Let's embrack on a new chapter of life

Living behind , what no longer serves

Welcoming New year 2024 with greatful heart

And much gratitude 

New year, New dreams, New me

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Go Global Stay Local

It was half past 7 in the evening when our doorbell rang nonstop. The first time it rang I could hear from inside my house a group of people conversing loudly. I opened the door to my amazement - Boom, it was a group of kids dressed like vampires, zombies, ghosts, witches, and whatnot. I was shocked for a second and the kids wished me a ''Happy Halloween" aunty and asked for candies and gifts. I was not prepared for this. So gave them toffees. So, one set of little Halloween left. But this phenomenon occurred repeatedly in the period of every 15 minutes and I was running out of candies, as at my home we store very little or no candies in our refrigerator. We avoid sugar and packed snacks. Every time the doorbell rang R used to run towards the fridge to find toffee to give to his friends. Our stock of candies got over very quickly. But the doorbell was ringing until 10 pm in the night. Where R was fast asleep, being my early raiser kid. I was awake with my half-eye open; I kept on telling the little cute witches and vampires - Sorry our stock got over. hmmmmmm. And yes, R was not part of this celebration, he didn't like the idea of celebrating. According to him, it is not written in any of the Indian scriptures. And also, because, he knows its origin, why this festival came into existence. Yes, I had told the story of why and when it dated back that this festival was celebrated and came into existence. And somehow, he is not in favour of celebrating ' Bhoot Divas', I call it this way. And I being a good understanding mom completely respect his decision, and also of those cute little kids who were rooming around the entire society in celebrating Halloween until 11 pm dressed like witches. 

That night I was happy to talk with kids whom I had known for more than 9 years and never even exchanged a smile when I tried to smile at them, nor did they try to greet me when I wanted to have a conversation with them. At least with this celebration, I was able to talk to them and know their name and exchange smiles, and most importantly, I gave them toffee and candies. The next day morning when I went down to drop R off at his school bus at the main gate of our society, where most of the kids wait, I saw a few kids who were at my place the previous night asking for candies and gifts, I was expecting them to give a smile or just say hello, to my amazement, they just turned their face. I was not so elevated by this behaviour, thinking let me break the ice and I smiled back at them, thinking one or the other day they would understand. A week passed by there came the biggest festival of the year, which is celebrated on a larger scale. This festival is like home calling for an Indian. It is a festival of love, laughter, and lights - Diwali- The festival of lights. Where elders and the ladies of the house start being busy in the preparation for this festival 10 days before, making yummy snacks along with kids. Cleaning and decluttering the old things which are no longer used. At my house, R and I make small goodie bags for his friends. R paint the mud diya and make handmade cards to send Diwali wishes. And I prepare snacks at home which will be packed in a silk bag along with diya and card. R distributed these goodie bags going to his friend's place and wished them "Happy Diwali". And takes this to his school too and distributes it to his friends. We both just love making this every year. Wearing new clothes and bursting crackers should not be the main thing of this festival. Of course, it is a part of it. But the main idea of Indian festivals is, that they unite people. Festivals help us to embrace our culture and religion. And it is very helpful in breaking the monotony of life. To my amazement, any of those kids who were rooming around dressed like witches and whatnot were neither bothered to wish on "Diwali". This made me write down this post.

R along with his friend busted crackers. He is not keen on polluting the air, but this year he wanted to show me that he is not afraid of crackers anymore and he busted a few rockets and very few small bijli and bombs. I being a spectator was just standing by his side to see his enthusiasm and smile. But my mind was constantly thinking about days that I cherished from my childhood, especially during festivals and pooja. That enthusiasm about taking part in all the small things too big. Where we wanted our outmost contribution and make our parents feel happy and proud. We used to get up early in the morning, and take a bath then decorate the house with flowers and the ladies put beautiful rangoli and those yummy mouthwatering dishes that we used to just gulp. I don't see that in today's generation. When we enjoy our kids celebrating Halloween so enthusiastically, why can't they follow our culture and go to houses wearing traditional attire and wishing people who live in their neighbourhood and get their blessings? Doing these kids will get blessings along with yummy traditional food. We cannot blame the younger generation. Kids do what they see. So, people wake up our cute little people watching us. We have to set an example for them. But we keep blaming our kids for not listen etc. It is not only important to teach our children about the importance of our festival, culture, and knowledge behind each festival we celebrate, but most importantly we need to follow it. 

 

There is no problem in celebrating a festival that is not even routed in India. We Indians truly believe in the concept of 'Vasudhaiva Kutumbakam". and have no problem celebrating " Halloween" or "Ancestors Day" or anything for that matter. By the way 'Halloween" dates back to the ancient Celtic festival of Samhain. These Celts who lived 2,000 years ago, mostly lived in the area that is now Ireland, it is believed that on this day, the souls of the dead returned to their homes, so people dressed in scary costumes and lit bonfires to ward off spirits. I doubt any of these kids were educated who were celebrating this festival rather than knowing its origin. In India, we don't wear scary outfits to ward off our ancestors but we do pooja and get their blessings in the month of the Hindu calendar ''Pitru Paksha". (I know it is debatable) Studying ancient history allows us to have a better grasp of our cultural heritage and intellectual growth. We all know that we couldn't be who we are today if we don't understand our culture. We are a land of belonging rather than blood. India is a country in which every great religion finds a home.

 

But we should tell our kids that Indian festivals are a time to live, love, celebrate, and enjoy with family and friends. It is a time for endless joy and excitement. There are perks of staying in metropolitan cities like Delhi, Bangalore, Chennai, and Mumbai, we get to witness different cultures in one place. I feel it is very important for our kids to see and get involved in all the festivals. Diwali, Navaratri, Kartik month pooja, and Ganesh Chaturthi are the biggest festivals which are celebrated by being at home and welcoming positivity into our life. Engage kids in being creative, cooking, and baking. Exchange food with neighbours. Enjoy the different cuisines and their delicacies during festivals. Encourage them to participate in various cultural activities (Not only Halloween) going around as there is no better way to learn than this and showcase their talent. This is a way to let them be a part of the dazzling fairs and festivals and discover the real life of India in a very special way filled with endless joy and excitement. Festivals are a time to rejoice and cherish memorable experiences. I see people going on vacation, locking the doors. It is an individual's choice. But now things have changed for our times. As we now talk about not busting crackers on Diwali. Save water on Holi. So, let our kids not miss out on everything related to their culture.

A country as diverse as India is symbolized by the plurality of its culture. It is the seventh-largest country by area and the second-most populous country globally. For ages, it has been a land of sages, and saints. Epics like Ramayana and Mahabharat are the real evidence that depict the strong Indian culture.  Once a great scientist said, "We owe a lot to the Indians, who taught us how to count, without which no worthwhile scientific discovery could have been made". These lines were said by the great - Albert Einstein. Embrace the diversity of Indian festivals and celebrate the unity it symbolizes. Because the greatness of culture can be found in its festival. Don't allow that to fade away. Throughout the year, in all religions, in all seasons, we Indians find a reason to worship almost everything and everyone, from people to Gods, from animals to plants, from planets to stars. So don't forget the roots where we belong.

Whatever affects one directly affects all indirectly" lines by -"Martin Luther King Jr".  It is in the roots, not the branches, that a tree's greatest strength lies. Set high-level benchmarks for the future generation. So, people "Celebrate globally but don't forget to stay local". Being Indian we believe in "Vasudhaiva Kutumbakam" & "Atithi Devo Bhava" but don't lack behind saying "Vande Mataram"......... 

Go Global - Stay Local........

Temple Diaries ( Part - 3 )

The third day in Madurai was relaxing and a shopping sphere. We bought a few famous Madurai Sungundi cotton sarees, a fabric which is made in the city of Madurai. That night we packed our bags and went to sleep early the next day journey was to one of my favorite destinations which cannot be missed en route Rameshwaram. Which has great mythological facts and history. Dhanushkodi, which is located at the southeastern tip of Pamban Island. It is located around 20km away from Rameshwaram. The name "Dhanush" literally means ' end of bow', which denotes the legend of Lord Rama and the Hindu sacred text Ramayana. One of the smallest towns in the world, with a length of just 50 yards, Dhanushkodi is the land border between Sri Lanka and India. It is around 15km away from Sri Lanka. The town has a vast stretch of beach, running up to 15km, which is surrounded by the Bay of Bengal and the Indian Ocean on the other side. Dhanushkodi is also called the 'Last land of India'.

According to legend, Dhanushkodi is the place where Lord Rama, Lord Lakshmana Hanuman, and his vanara army had built a bridge to Lanka to rescue Goddess Sita who was under the captivity of the demon Ravana. This bridge was known as Ram Setu. After winning the war, Lord Rama won the battle and crowned Vibhishana, brother of Ravana, as the king of Lanka. Vibhshana later told Rama to destroy the bridge of Ram Setu, upon his request Lord Rama broke the bridge with the end of his bow. This is the reason why the place has been named Dhanushkodi, which means 'end of bow'. We enjoyed the drive watching the ocean on both sides while reaching the tip of Dhanushkodi. It was 5 pm, and we witnessed the mesmerizing sunset. One can see the TV tower of Sri Lanka which is only 15 km from Dhanushkodi. R was very happy to see the beauty of the ocean and was eager to play in the water. We were dropped off by the driver at a certain point where one needed to walk to reach the tip of the land. In that zone, there was no network and our phones were out of reach. 

Witnessing the vast huge never-ending ocean, there were no boundaries for my happiness. It made me feel tiny, humble and inspired. At sea, I learned how little a person needs. Not how much. After spending a nice time near the ocean, we all started towards KothandaramaSwamy temple, which is believed to be 500-1000 years old. This is where Lord Rama did the Pattabhishekam of Vibhashana after Ravana was killed in the war by Rama. This story is depicted in paintings across the walls inside the shrine. After blissful darshan, we walked 30-40 steps towards the sea which was connected to the Indian Ocean, opposite this temple, where one can see the stone which is kept in front of Shivling, which was once used by Hanuman and his vanara army to built Ram Setu. Even to this day these huge stones are preserved by the Government of Tamil Nadu and are kept for darshan. To our amazement even to this day, the stone floats in water. We all took darshan of this stone which was kept on our head for blessings. Isn't amazing. Later we visited our famous "Missile Man of India, Dr. APJ Kalam sir at, the central residence, which is a 10-minute walk from Rameshwaram. This house has been converted into a small museum with the photos and memorabilia of Kalam sir.

Later we reached our hotel which was a beautiful resort, and spent a relaxed evening, as the next day we got to visit the Rameshwaram temple. This temple is considered a holy pilgrimage for Hindus. Mythological accounts depict the presiding deity the Lingam of Ramanathaswamy (Shiva), as having been established and worshipped by Lord Ram before he crossed his bridge to the island of Sri Lanka, it is one of the Char Dham pilgrimage sites comprising Badrinath, Puri, Dwarka, and Rameshwaram. According to the Hindu epic - Ramayana, Rama was the 7th avatar of the god Vishnu prayed to Shiva here to absolve any sins that he might have committed during his war against the demon-king Ravana in Lanka. As per Shiva Purana, the jyothirlinga shrines are believed to be the places where Shiva is said to have appeared as a fiery column of light. Originally there were 64 jyothirlingas, of which 12 are considered sacred to Lord Shiva. Each of the 12 jyothirlingas sites is a different manifestation of Shiva. This was our 5th Jyothirling darshan. We wanted to have the best darshan of lord Mahadev, hence we opted for a VIP darshan, which includes MahaRudra Abhishek, along with the entire family. My parents, sis, and my family. My family R, myself, and N this was our 5th Jyothirling darshan. And this was one of the most mesmerizing darshan we ever had.

The next morning we all got up and were ready by 3.30 am. Yes, early morning. One of the temple people who helped us and was in charge of our darshan. We started towards the temple at 4.15 am. We opted for two darshans, one the "Spatika Mani" darshan which was a lifetime experience and should not be missed. In Rameshwaram temple, this Mani darshan is held in the early morning every day. This"Mani" is made of 'spatik', which is a precious crystal in the form of " Holy Shivling". According to legend, this is "Mani" of "Sheshnag" ( The snake on which Lord Vishnu rests). As part of the ritual, before the main darshan one has to do 22 kund (Wells) snanam (bath). This starts with Samudra snanam at Agri Theertham. It is believed that the first kund/theertham lies submerged under the sea. So we all reached this Agri Theertham at 4.30 am and took the holy dip. later entered inside the main temple to have an entranced darshan of 'Spatik' mani. Once we entered the main sanctum there were thousands of devotees to have this once-in-a-lifetime darshan. We entered the VIP darshan lane, and upon taking the ''Spatik'' mani darshan there were no boundaries to my happiness. I felt like a small feather in front of that glaze, the brightness of that mani darshan. Felt blessed.

After mani darshan, there comes the 22 kund/well snanam or bath. A medium-sized bucket of water is poured on the devotee's head before entering the main sanctum. All these kunds/theertham are inside the premises of the main temple. With my hands folded, head down, eyes closed and I continuously chanted" Om Namaha Shivay" and "Om Namo Narayanaya". Took the 22 Kund bath. I was worried after taking 22 kund snanam, R should not catch a cold or cough. I was in the middle of my anticipation when the man poured a bucket full of water over me, in the early morning hours, my clothes got wet and heavy and my body felt light. I didn't feel the water was cold. There was so much energy through my head to toe, that I was getting goosebumps all over my body. This phenomenon is to be repeated 21 more times to complete the 22 kund snanam. R was jumping in joy holding an empty bottle on his head which I had carried to collect all those 22 kund water back home. Every time the water was poured bottle was filled. Holding my dad who is in his late 70s, and a great Mahadev bhakt. He had tears in his eyes and chanting Har Har Mahadev. My sis was holding my mom, who was on a race to reach the kund/well. Since we had taken VIP darshan there were hardly any people in Kund Snanam.

We all followed the directions of the person who was heading us through our darshan. The 22 kund water goes in this direction - firstly, Mahalakshmi theertham the one submerged in the ocean, followed by Gayathri, Savitri, Saraswati, Gavya, Gavyaksha, Nala, Neela, Sethumadhava, Gandhamadhava, Brahmahatya, Vimochana, Shanku, Surya, Chandra, Chakra, Shiva, Sarva, Satyamrita, Gaya, Ganga, Yamuna and finally Kodi. It is believed that sprinkles from Kodi theertham are equivalent to taking a dip in the holy Ganges. As I moved from one Kund to another, I had an observation that the temperature and salinity of the water kept changing. While the water was mostly warm, the taste varied from neutral to sweet. Every Kund has a green board that shares anecdotes from the epic Ramayana which talks about sins washing off your body. The Kund has been arranged in such a way that by the time you come to the 22nd Kund, you are absolved of all the sins. After taking 22 Kund baths we all were drenched from head to toe. We were told especially not to take tap water baths at least for that day. And then let the body soak in the holy water and all its healing properties. 

After 22 Kund snanam, we all changed our clothes and started towards the main Sanctum where arrangements were made for our MahaRudra Abhishek. Verses from the Rudram Chamkam were chanted by two pandits. We all sat and did pooja and started towards the main scantum holding Kalash in hand filled with milk. I had taken Ganges water which was bought from Gomuk, which is in UtarKashi of Gangotri glacier by my BIL. It is believed that lord Mahadev will be pleased with whoever gets the Ganges from Gomuk the starting point of the Ganga in the the Himalayas. After 22 Kund snanam, we all felt calm and peaceful and felt light and more conscious in the present moment. One has to witness this once in a lifetime. We along with my entire family watched the Abhishek to Lord Ramanathswamy from Ganges water and milk, all chanting Har Har Mahadev, my heart was pounding nonstop with the energy looking at lord Ramanathswamy. Every person under the roof was chanting some or the other verses. In that chaos, I felt so much peace in my heart. I found myself standing alone in front of the gleaming Shiv ling, As I got a nudge to move forward I saw Shiv ling and closed my eyes to capture it. Thank the lord for making this life clear from all the sins that we did knowingly or unknowingly and for starting a fresh life with a lot of positivity, contentment, love, and belongingness with my entire family.

After having a blissful darshan we were handed over the flower mala and prasad by the pandit who was with us on this entire journey and walked towards the exit of the temple. It was 7.30 am and we were out of the temple witnessing the best darshan of our lifetime. While walking towards exit we used to halt every 2 minutes to admire the architecture of the temple with 1000 colorful pillars and ceilings adorned with depictions from epic Ramayana. Time to start towards our hotel as we had 3 hour's drive to Madurai where we had to catch our train to back home to Bengaluru. I thanked and prayed for all his blessings which go far beyond anything we could ever dream of. I thanked god for protecting me from what I thought I wanted and blessing me with what I didn't know I needed. One should stop worrying about the potholes in the road and celebrate the journey because Life is a journey. Travel it well."

Concluding my Temple Diaries. Until I travel to a next expedition......

Temple Diaries ( Part - 2)

A temple visit is a reminder of the sacredness of time and the importance of spending it in meaningful ways. In the temple, we seek solace from the chaos of the inner world and find inner peace. Tamil Nadu has more temples than any other state in India. It is said Tamil Nadu is home to more than 400,000 Hindu temples and is aptly called " The land of temples". These temples are shining examples of our cultural heritage with the finest architectural creations that take you back to the Dravidian, Chola, and Pallava dynasties. Most of these temples were built in Medieval times. On our first day in Madurai, after Meenakshi amma darshan we visited Balaji temple and Kartikeya Swamy shrine which was a one-hour drive from Madurai city. These two temples are situated on the hills. We enjoyed the lovely evening pleasant drive, to our surprise Madurai weather was cool and windy due to rain. It was no less than Bengaluru weather, which was a blessing in disguise.

After having a soulful darshan we reached Madurai and had dinner in the famous outlet called " Sree Sabarees", who serve the yummy dosas, Idly, Vada. We all relished the food and went to sleep early since we had a 2 hour of journey the next morning. Our second day tour was to one of the most sacred temples. Tiruchirappalli is an ancient city in India's southern Tamil Nadu state. The Kaveri and Kollidam rivers flow around Srirangam Island. The Ranganatha Swamy is the main deity worshipped largely in this city. The temple and its artwork are subjecte to numerous different Tamil legends in regional Puranic texts. Srinranga Mahathmiyam, for example, is one of the compilations of the temple mythology about its origins. According to it, Brahma was performing austerities during the Samudra Manthana (churning of the cosmic ocea) , and Sriranagam Vimanam emerged as a result. It remained in Satyaloka for ages and was brought to Ayodhya by king Ikshvaku. After Rama, an avatar of Vishnu had killed the evil demon Ravana, he gave it to King Vibhishana who wanted to be with Rama. When Vibhishana passed through Trichy en route to Sri Lanka where he had become the king, the Srirangam Vimanam would not move from the island. So, he gave it to a local kind Dharmavarma, if the king consecrated the Vimanam to face the south cardinal direction eternally, blessing him and Lanka. Hence, it is that the diety (in a reclining posture) faces South, his body aligned to the east - west axis.

The temple complex includes over 50 shrines. These are dedicated to Vishnu, Lakshmi as well as Vaishnava scholars and poets. The shrine to Vishnu displays him in his various avataras, as well as his iconography. For example, Sri Ranganathaswamy temple shrines include those of Chakkaratalvar, Narasimha, Rama, Hayagriva, and Gopala Krishna. It was the 3rd day of Navratri, and expecting the crowd we took special darshan. Being a devotee of Lord Vishnu, I was thrilled and eager to get the darshan. At my home and my mom's house one can hear the hymes chanting from Vishnu Sahasranama morning and evening time. My mom regularly chants these scared hymes of Lord Vishnu religiously. Upon reaching inside the temple suddenly my mom's leg started hurting her so badly that she was barely able to walk. We along with my dad and R were almost   inside the line, mom and sis got stuck outside the line way to darshan. Mom was in great pain. We were very worried, seeing her in that condition, and were apprehensive thinking how she will get the darshan. But the Lord has his plans. Within a minute a guard came along with a police security who is in charge of the temple authorities took mom and sis from the special entry, and they both directly entered the main sanctum within minutes in front of us.We were in shock and were equally happy in joy, seeing this beyond belief happening. My mom walked and took the darshan of Lord Ranganatha Swamy and was in a teary eye with heart full of gratitude. This clearly shows the presence of God to his devotees who do his service without any expectations in return. Whenever God calls us for a task, he will equip us and enable us to complete that task.

I was in great hurry to get the darshan of the lord. Finally, we all reached the main sanctum and people chanted Govinda - Govinda. The main shirne of lord Ranganatha is in the innermost courtyard. The sanctum has a golden vimana (crown tower over the sanctum sanctorum). It is shaped like a Tamil Omkara (Om symbol), shows anthropomorphic Paravasudeva on its gable, has an etching of Ramanuja as well on it, and is plated with gold. Inside, a 6- metre (20ft) edifice of Rangantha reclining on Adisesha, the coiled serpent, can be seen. My heart was at the race the moment I saw the lord . There was no boundary for my happiness and I was outbursted with tears and emotion. Took a while for me to settle down. It happens when one's life journey is filled with almighty's blessing. When one focuses on being a blessing, God makes sure that you are always blessed in abundance. Indeed, it was a blessed darshan. We all took the prasad and started walking towards the exit, watching the beautifully carved pillars with detailed art.

India is rich in art and architecture, which is seen in the temples of India. Architecture is a visual art and the building speaks for itself. It is belived that this temple is the most illustrious Vaishnava temples in South India, rich in legend and history. Beyond the ancient textual history, archaeological evidence such as inscriptions refer to this temple, and these stone inscriptions are from late 100 BCE to 100 CE. Hence, making it one of the oldest surviving active temple complexes in South India.

After having a blissful darshan we all started towards the famous - Jambukeswararar Temple in Trichy. Jambukeswararar temple dedicated to Lord Shiva is located in Thiruvanaikaval in Trichy district and is one of the Pancha Bhoota ( 5 element temple). This temple is dedicated to the water element - Jambu Lingam. It is said to have been built by the early Cholas around 1800 years ago. It is one of the major 5 Shiva temples that represent five great elements. The temple represents the element "neer" which is water. True to its powers, the underground water stream at the sanctum of the temple is always filled with water, irrespective of any season. Underneath the Linga form of Shiva, a spring comes and is a divine gift of the God. In the temple one can witness Monolithic stone pillars and stone chains and12 zodiac signs which are beautifully carved.

A legend says this temple is endowed with 5 praharams. (corridor) As lord Shiva himself built the 5th praharam, appearing in the form of a spider, it is knownas " Thiruneettan Thirumathil". It is here lord Shiva blessed a spider and elephant to attain moksha. I feel so proud of the ancient and mythological stories of our temples, devotees are blessed both in this birth and next birth. One who worships Goddess Ahilandeswari will be blessed good education and intelligence, marriage, and wishes for a child to be fulfilled. By coming around the fifth divine wall known as "Thiruneettan Thirumathil" one's wish will be fulfilled. By this, we covered one of the Pancha Bhoota temples - dedicated to water element.

On our way back to Madurai, with a heart full of gratitude and blessing, watching the bright blue sky and open fields, those long open roads, I was enjoying the journey and felt so content and happy. I believe in creating happiness rather than looking for it through other means. Because very little is needed to make a happy life. A warm hug, elders blessings, a child's love towards his mother, loving family, and grace follow you.

To be continued......

Temple Diaries ( Part - 1)

On a warm - breeze night we started our train journey. It has been almost a decade since we sat on the train and R's first train journey. My son had just seen the moving train when we used to come across a railway track crossing, it was a mixed feeling for him. He is an extremely fastidious kid where cleanliness and hygiene come first, and we as parents want him to experience this new environment. We want him to be accustomed and be habituated. Since our summer vacation was jam-packed with renovating our home, we planned for a Dussehra vacation where I could take along my parents too, It has been quite a while since they traveled. In the urge to complete at least one Jyotirling a year, we planned for the nearest one. We booked our train tickets well in advance, due to the Navratri rush. The places that are visited largely, and my favorite Madurai, and Rameshwaram. I visited Madurai in 2006 when I was working with GE and this place is very close to my heart. We have Meenakshi Amma idol in our house pooja room which I worship morning and evening religiously. 

Yes, there comes the day of our journey - 1st day of Navratri. We had a night train journey to Madurai. We all reached Majestic Railway station in Bengaluru and everything was looking so new to me. I don't even remember when I last visited this railway station. There were large numbers of crowds, coolie, and people running around to catch their train pushing each other. Old elderly people, and small kids sleeping on the platform. People resting in the waiting lounge to catch their next train. I was happy to see all this where I was reliving my childhood memories when I had traveled once or twice to my maternal grandma's house in our Dusshera vacation. R was in mixed feelings seeing all this and was apprehensive and asked me mumma, I hope inside the train will be neat and clean as we need to travel overnight sleeping. His dad took him on a small tour while were waiting for our train, and explained to R what is a platform, where we can check our train number and how to locate it, etc. Somehow R was making himself adjust to this entirely new environment.

One can learn life lessons on these railway platforms. For me railway stations have always been a fun factor. As a kid, I used to enjoy train journeys. Way back 80's kids especially girls have a great fascination for railway stations, after watching the very famous Bollywood blockbuster movie DDLJ. One of my favorites(haha) What do these cross tracks remind us? I feel " life is always on the move". It is a place of hello's and goodbyes", " arrivals and departures". For me it is a crossroads of dreams and aspirations". And we as parents wanted R to see and experience the hard facts and reality of life. Which is usually not seen in an Airport, which looks so sophisticated, neat, and set.  After a wait there you go, our train just reached the platform and we all boarded the train and sat in our reserved seats. It was a 2-tier AC section, where one can easily have a relaxed night's journey sleeping peacefully. R was jumping for joy seeing the double bunk bed. I and R got settled in the upper berth facing each other. Slowly he was opening up and getting used to this new environment. Two of our seats were a bit far from the rest of our seats, where Mom and Sis got settled saying women crowd more on the other side. 

It was half past 10 in the night, and R and I were not ready to sleep, with the excitement of traveling by train. R said mumma train travels are better than air travel, and he started giving me reasons, how it is better than other. I was happy to see his understanding of things and that too early. After a few minutes, we both understood that we were troubling other co-passengers too with our loud chat and giggles, and finally, we all fell asleep. The next day morning at 7:45 am we were supposed to arrive at Madurai station. I being a morning bird, got up at my usual time at 4:30 am, and got fresh, and slowly went to wake up my sis and mom, to my surprise, sis was not seen on the upper berth, the lower berth curtain was covered. In anguish I slowly opened the curtain peek-a-boo, both the ladies sitting facing each other and not slept the whole night. Omg, I was shocked to see this. Of course, how can I forget, my mom never sleeps on any of the night journeys. I have rarely seen her fall asleep. Sis doesn't like train journeys as she is not comfortable with that close curtain idea which gives you a claustrophobic feeling. I am the complete opposite of her, where I can sleep in crowded markets to bus stations, once I go to sleep, see you the next day morning (haha)

The next morning one by one all got fresh and started watching the beautiful view from the window. R was not ready to come down, enjoying and cuddling with his dad on the bunk bed on the train. Finally, we reached Madurai @ 7:50 a.m., and our driver was waiting outside the station to receive us who would be our chauffeur for next week. We all reached our hotel got fresh had a yummy breakfast which had a wide spread of delicious - Idli, dosa, vada, and all of South's famous delicacies. R being a food lover who loves to explore different cuisines, was very happy, he simply loves south food, and his favorite sambar. So I was relaxed in this entire trip, with R's eatery options. After our breakfast, we all started towards Meenakshi Amma temple. This was my second visit to this temple after 2006. Visiting her adobe during Navratri is a goddess call. It is located in the heart of the city.

Keeping the Navratri crowd in mind we all took special darshan tickets and started walking towards the temple. Meenakshi Amman temple is one of the oldest and most important temples of India renowned for its astonishing Dravidian style of architecture. The temple complex is literally like a city. One of the largest of its kind. This temple also called Meenakshi - Sundareshwara temple, has a great historical and mythological significance. One of the oldest and most significant temples in India. It dates back more than 2500 years. This temple was built by the Pandya king, Kulasekara Pandya, in the 6th century CE. One legend describes a childless king Malayadwaja Pandya and his queen Kachanamalai performed the yajna for a son, they got a daughter who was already 3 years old from the yajna fire, and later inherited the kingdom, conquered the earth, and requested Shiva to marry her. Shiva told her to return to Madurai and wait for him. He arrived eight days later in the resplendent form of Sundareshwara, the lord married Meenakshi Amma in a magnificent ceremony called Thirukalyanam. Meena amma is the tutelary deity of Madurai and is considered the avatar of the goddess Parvathi. Thus Meenakshi Amma continues to rule Madurai. This temple is dedicated to the goddess Meenakshi, a form of Shakti, and her consort, Sundareshwara a form of Shiva. The present campus structure was rebuilt after the 14th century CE, which was later, repaired, renovated, and reconstructed in the 17th century by Tirumala Nayaka.  

The shrine of Meenakshi Amman temple has four main entrances, one on each side of the temple complex. These entrances are known as the North Tower entrance, South Tower entrance, West Tower entrance, and East Tower entrance. Entry from the South Tower entrance takes you to goddess Meenakshi Amman's main scantrum. The temple has 14 gopurams, the tallest of which is a southern tower that rises to over 170ft, which is colorful The whole complex/building resembles a mandala, a geometric design based on the principles of symmetry and locality. Inside the temple complex, one can witness several shrines. R and I were just awestruck with the art and architecture of this gigantic temple. While standing in line for darshan, one can witness huge beautiful colorful kolam or Rangoli inside the temple, in all nooks - corners, and pillars. It was a feast for our eyes to witness the grandeur of this temple.

Since we had taken tickets for special darshan, we were able to get the entry to the main scantrum in almost 25 minutes. Inside the main temple, it was beautifully decked with a variety of flowers, being the 2nd day of Navratri. People chanted devi hymens, and the whole atmosphere was so blissful, and positive just like heaven on earth. Meenakshi - means, women with beautiful eyes or Fish eyes. As a fish never closes its eye even while sleeping in water, It is believed Meenakshi Amma never closes her eyes and watch all her bhakt or devotees. So it is told when you see Meena Amma look into her eyes and feel her presence. There came the bhakt and bhagwan moment when I took Meenakshi Amman darshan, I was tear-eyed, with goosebumps and gratitude in my heart. Took her blessings and thanked Amma for this wonderful opportunity to get her darshan at this auspicious time. My wish to take my parents for her darshan was fulfilled. We later started towards Sunadareshwara temple inside the temple complex took the darshan of Lord Shivji and started walking towards the exit looking all around those beautiful 1000 colourful pillars with minute intricate architecture. And yes, my favorite - the Dussehra dolls, Golu or Kolu which was beautifully decorated inside the temple. It is a traditional festival celebrated mainly during Navaratri. It is an important cultural event that brings people together and showcases creativity and artistry through doll displays. With a heart full of devotion, gratitude, and blessings we reached our hotel.

Our Upanishads explained so beautifully, why it is necessary or good to visit the important shrine. During such a visit, one starts trusting in all good as well as unpleasant things, which surprisingly reinstated. You suddenly feel buoyant at heart to think there's an invisible power, governing the universe and that trust that everything is taken care of. God cannot be found in noise and restlessness. God is a friend of silence. Nature is the best example - trees, flowers, grass - grow in silence. And all our questions are answered in silence.

To be continued.....